Bible Passages for Counselors

These are some great passages to give to those you are counseling. Go over these passages with them, and have them read, study, and meditate on these passages:
  • Psalm 1
  • Psalm 23
  • Psalm 42:5-6
  • Ephesians 4:1-6, 17-32
  • Philippians 4:6-8
  • Philippians 3:13-14

Counseling Tips 

  • Unless you've been professionally trained, you are a pastoral or lay counselor. You should guide people to the Scriptures and to other, professional resources (if needed).
  • Point people always to the Bible.
  • Listen actively, not passively. 
  • Give assignments. Have them take action.
  • Don't forget to Pray with Those You Counsel
  • Get training yourself from credentialed counseling professionals.

Premarital Counseling Outline:
Help Engaged Couples With This Suggested Outline

Session One: "Laying the Foundation"

Discuss the biblical basis for marriage and the relationship that each person has with God. Emphasize the importance of having a Christian marriage, where both parties love God and make faith the center of their lives. 

This is also the best session to talk about how the couple met, how long they've known each other, what concept they have of marriage, and what their respective expectations are as they get married. 

Session Two: "Family Matters"

Has either the bride or groom been previously married? If so, discuss how the past affects the future. What about upbringing? Are there any issues from the past that need addressed, such as abuse, strained relations with parents, etc.? Do the parents of each party support the wedding specifically or the marriage overall? 

Session Three: "Sex, Kids, and Money"

This is the time in which the couple needs to have a frank discussion about sex, kids, and money. These tend to be the topics that cause the most conflict in marriage, so it's important that a biblical foundation be established at the outset.

Session Four: "Looking Ahead"

The minister should discuss with the couple their future plans regarding career, financial expectations, moving, etc. The bride and groom need to be on the same page with respect to their future. This is also the time to revisit items that still need some discussion and prayer.